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Friday, December 30, 2011

Love is a Ferris Wheel Ride

"Don't be scared, its only love that we're falling in..." - Falling In/ Lifehouse

Finally, alam ko na kung bakit "falling in love" kahit na having that feeling is really a choice you make. Kasi parang pagsakay lang din pala yun sa Ferris Wheel...

a. You are forced to face your fears.
You literally have to face that scary feeling of falling; that part in the ride where gravity pulls you down at a great speed, before you can appreciate na that exactly is the reason why the ride is exciting and fun. I have found that in love, RISK is a very important thing. You have to muster the courage to address your fears and ACT, otherwise baka puro "what if" na lang ang istorya ng buhay mo. I have learned na the only way to know if you'll survive something is to get in there and live out that Nike slogan- "JUST DO IT!"

b. You have to teach your self to let go, otherwise you won't enjoy the ride.You can laugh, cry, scream, bahala ka. Ang mahalaga, you express yourself. You accept that you are scared and that in spite of it, you let go. You allow yourself to relax. Otherwise, every time you approach that crucial turn in the ride, lagi ka na lang magpi-freeze up. Hindi mo mae-enjoy yung hampas ng hangin sa mukha mo, yung magandang view pagdating sa tuktok, or na cute pala yung katabi mo. Sayang yung moment! :)

Same pag nagmamahal ka, uso sa atin yung mag daydream and imagine ourselves in conversation or in perfect moments with people we like or love. Pero bihira sa atin yung talagang gumagawa ng opportunity to make such moments happen. Nakakatakot kasi eh. Nagpi-freeze up tayo pag andiyan na yung tao. Tapos sasabayan pa ng pride natin na kesyo baka mapahiya tayo. Kaya we get to miss so much. Ako mismo, guilty ako nyan. Shet. Pero, yes, it is one of the things we have to be aware of and do something about - to express our love, and make moments happen with people we love.

c. Enjoy the ride  while it lasts.While you are taking your time to be afraid, stuck in that frozen position,
the Ferris Wheel will continue turning. Hindi siya basta-basta hihinto para lang sa yo kahit pa umiyak ka, unless aatakihin ka na sa puso. And then, and then, just when nagsisimula ka nang mag-enjoy, ayun, tapos na ang ride. Kailangan mo nang bumaba.

Yes, it is really hard to just "enjoy the moment" especially when every good moment is also a possible source of heartbreak. Kaso, all things end eventually. Nagbabago din ang mga damdamin, either for better or for worse. In the end, we all die. Everything fades. So para saan pang we insist to take ourselves seriously eh sa huli natatapos din naman ang lahat. Sabi nga ni Paolo Coelho sa The Pilgrimage (c1987),  
"Human beings are the only ones in nature who are aware that they will die... Still, being fragile creatures, humans always try to hide from themselves the certainty that they will die. They do not see that it is death itself that motivates them to do the best things in their lives... They do not see that with an awareness of death, they would be able to be even more daring to go much further in their daily conquests, because then they would have nothing to lose - for death  is inevitable."

So let's live. Let's love. Let us enjoy the moments, even the not so good ones. Tutal, dun din naman natin nakikilala ng husto yung sarili natin eh. Parang sa Ferris Wheel lang din kung saan natututo tayo na meron pala tayong fear of heights, and nakakapag-strategize tayo how to control our body to react para di na tayo masyado natatakot and nagpi-freeze every time we approach that crucial turn. I-enjoy natin yung ride. Afterwards, sakay pa tayo ng ibang rides :)
kaigachi is a conjugation of the Japanese term "kigaicha" or crazy. It roughly translates as "crazy about something."

"One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light but by making the darkness conscious." - C.Jung

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